Heart Wounds

Have you ever been in the middle of a situation and thought, “Why am I so upset?” Or after perhaps “I know I shouldn’t be this angry/afraid/sad, but I just can’t help it!” This is a sign of a wounded heart!

The Lord is near to the brokenhearted and saves the crushed in spirit. (Psalms 34:18 ESV)

The Greek word dakā' (da-kaw') is translated as crushed and means destruction or crushed literally to powder. Our hearts can be broken by a sudden, traumatic soul wound or crushed by a repetitive action. A heart wound is when repeated affliction batters our heart until it is wounded enough to provide a place for a spirit to reside, who will push us into emotional reactions to similar circumstances. We will often feel like we are right back there where we were wounded.

He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds [curing their pains and their sorrows]. (Psalms 147:3 AMPC)

The Hebrew word translated as “brokenhearted” actually means wounded, hurt, and sorrow. A wounded heart is created by sorrowful events that hurt and wound us over and over. The word for “wounds” means shattered, broken, crushed, and wrecked, which refers to a soul wound.

Jesus is the healer of the broken and wounded heart. When we don’t know why we get angry or lash out, prayer can reveal the root of the issue so that Jesus can heal us and we won't do that anymore. He will not heal something if sin is present, so we must be willing to confess any sin related to the wounded heart or soul wound so that the Lord can come in and heal our heart, removing the spirit that is pushing us into bad behavior. He has paid the price for that sin to be blotted out when we turn from it so that we can be set free!

Discovering a heart wound is often easier for one gender than the other, unless we receive help from the Holy Spirit. Men and women were created differently to serve different functions. We need to understand how each gender was created so we can rejoice in the differences and walk joyfully in God’s ways.

…then the Lord God formed the man of dust from the ground and breathed into his nostrils the breath of life, and the man became a living creature... The Lord God took the man and put him in the garden of Eden to work it and keep it. (Genesis 2:7 & 15 ESV)

Men were created to work the land and “keep” it. The Hebrew word šāmar (shaw-mare') translates as “keep” and means to protect, to guard. These are the main duties of man: to produce something and to protect themselves and their possessions. The original commandment from God has never been revoked. There remains in man a natural instinct to produce and protect.

Now the Lord God said, “It is not good (sufficient, satisfactory) that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper (suitable, adapted, complementary) for him.”

And the Lord God caused a deep sleep to fall upon Adam; and while he slept, He took one of his ribs or a part of his side and closed up the [place with] flesh. And the rib or part of his side which the Lord God had taken from the man He built up and made into a woman, and He brought her to the man.

Then Adam said, “This [creature] is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of a man. Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and shall become united and cleave to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.” (Genesis 2:18, 21-24 AMPC)

God created woman as a helper for man. The word woman comes from the root word man. God divided man, and part of man became the female gender. A woman’s primary role is to be a helper to the man. This is why women are known as “nurturers.”

Women are usually more connected to their emotions and form emotional connections more easily because they are designed to become one and help their husbands. We become one on the inside, not the outside. We yearn for that inner connection.

Since part of a man was removed to create a woman, they are naturally emotionally driven. Because of this, it is often up to women to help them form an emotional attachment, which occurs as we “help” men develop emotional attachments by supporting them through the emotional aspects of life. Talking with men and giving them a safe space to share their hopes, dreams, and fears will help to form that emotional bond over time.

God created us and knows what drives each gender. Throughout the Old Testament, we see that women are required to be “virgins” and abstain from sex outside of marriage. Understanding the differences between men and women helps us recognize two main reasons behind this seemingly biased view from our Heavenly Father:

1. Spirits can be transferred during sex

   1. When a marriage covenant is established under God, then He protects both parties from any transfer of spirits.

2. Females will develop those inner connections

   1. When those connections are destroyed, it causes harm to their hearts or souls.

Scientific studies have backed up this conclusion! The attitude that women can do all that men can do, including having many sexual partners, has become more prevalent from 1998 to 2018. Suicide rates increased 35% during that same period. Many studies have shown that multiple sexual partners contribute to a higher rate of mental health issues, such as depression, which can contribute to suicidal thoughts and behaviors.

Confirmation can be found in the history of film and TV. Marilyn Monroe, one of the most iconic sex symbols of the early days of TV and film, was allegedly known for being very promiscuous. She supposedly slept with many famous men, including the President of the US: JFK! She also took her life when she was 36 years old. Sex outside of marriage can be very detrimental to women.

I believe this is why it has been up to women to put their foot down and say “no” to sex before marriage. We have left this concept behind in the last century, but it is time to take control of our lives once more. It is time for women to protect themselves and their souls by saying “no” to sex outside of marriage.

Discovering a Wounded Heart

The female gender is created differently from men. This doesn’t mean that we are inferior, but rather that we are different. One advantage is that women generally have a greater ability to recognize when the actions are prompted by a spirit stirring from a deep emotional wound. If we take time to reflect, most women can determine that our emotional response may not be proportionate to the situation. Understanding that heart wounds can often trigger overly intense responses, whether tears, anger, or something else, we can look to our past to determine the root cause so that Jesus can heal us.

Most men must draw close to God so that He can give them the ability to recognize when another spirit is hiding in a wounded heart and influencing their emotions. Often, when men get angry, they frequently do so without considering why. But God has given men a helper! Wives can help guide their husbands through this process!

A marriage covenant is an agreement established before God, designed to reunite two individuals who were once whole but became divided. A husband and a wife should complement and complete one another. As the Lord leads the wife, she may help her husband deal with his wounded heart or point him in the right direction for prayer.

While women may not be as physically strong as most men–that is how God created us– most women are emotionally stronger and more accustomed to dealing with emotions than men. When you combine a physically strong person with an emotionally strong one, the enemy will have a hard time knocking them down. Together we are stronger!

If your heart has been wounded because of repeated pain or hurtful actions, Jesus is the answer. You must be willing to turn from sin before He can heal you. There are basic steps to healing a heart wound, much like those for a soul wound, but it must be guided by the Holy Spirit to be successful.

1. Ask the Holy Spirit where the wound originated.

   1. You should receive a memory or something that points to a time

      1. If it happens before the age of 12, it is a generational curse.

         1. Confess for yourself and your ancestors as well

2. Ask the Holy Spirit to reveal any sin that led to that encounter.

   1. Confess, repent, and apply the blood to that sin.

   2. Confess for your ancestors if it applies.

3. Ask the Holy Spirit to reveal the emotions you felt during the encounter.

   1. These will be the trigger points for listening to a wrong spirit that moved in at that time.

   2. Confess that you have responded to that spirit through those emotions during your life.

      1. What actions did you take in response to those emotions?

         1. Running, hiding, withdrawing, lashing out, crying… etc.

      2. Renounce operating with the wrong spirit when feeling those emotions.

   3. Forgive all those involved, including yourself, and God if necessary.

4. Sever soul ties with the places and people involved

5. Ask Jesus to heal your wounded heart.

   1. Bringing you out of hiding.

   2. Reintegrating you into this moment in time.

If any of these concepts are new to you, it is time to learn about your King, Jesus, and His kingdom, Heaven so that you can receive all the benefits of it. The Online Christian Church has been created to teach God’s children His basic principles, which have resulted in healing for medically documented conditions, demonstrating that these are His ways.

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