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Bad Ties

Soul ties are bridges in the spirit realm that connect to our mind, will, and emotions. The emotions are a key point of contact: Almost any powerful emotional and passionate encounter with other people can form or forge soul ties. Traumas like fights, arguments, strife, accidents, fires, earthquakes, sickness, wars, death, etc. have the potential to establish a negative spiritual influence in our lives. There are good ties, as we discussed in Good Soul ties. There are also ungodly ties that give the enemy access to us.

Intercourse

One of the most common and strongest soul ties God warned us about is in the first Book of the Bible:

Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall join to his wife: and they shall be one flesh. (Genesis 2:24 AKJV)

Through intercourse, two people become one. A bridge is established in the spirit so that their flesh can become more alike. This is confirmed in the New Testament:

Know you not that your bodies are the members of Christ? shall I then take the members of Christ, and make them the members of an harlot?...(1 Corinthians 6:15 AKJV)

When sex takes place inside or outside of a marriage, a bridge is established and through this bridge, demons can come into a person’s life. Even when it is without consent, a path may still connect two people together and allow for a transfer of spirit.

...he took her, and lay with her, and defiled her. And his soul joined to Dinah the daughter of Jacob… (Geneses 34:2-3 AKJV)

Once intercourse takes place, there is a joining in the soul which influences the flesh (body). That is why when you marry, you will become “one flesh.” In the case of any sexual encounter outside a marriage, it will create a tie that needs to be severed.


Agreement

In the Old Testament we read that a Godly soul tie was developed between David and Jonathan because of a covenant (1 Samuel 18:3), which is an agreement between two people. An ungodly covenant is often a conspiracy to commit sin. When we make an agreement, we make a spiritual connection with our hearts which is then performed in the natural. This connection will bind people together in both the natural and the spiritual. This can be seen with the two leaders that came together against Jesus:

And the same day Pilate and Herod were made friends together… (Luke 23:12 AKJV)

Two leaders had agreed upon what should be done about Jesus. As they came into this wrong agreement, they became friends. When you begin to agree with something that is sin, then you begin to be more alike. We see from our Lord that there is power in agreement:

...if two of you shall agree on Earth as touching any thing that they shall ask, it shall be done for them of My Father which is in Heaven… (Matthew 18:19 AKJV)

When we come into agreement, our spirits are united in Heaven. This creates a spiritual bridge or soul tie between two people. My parents had an old saying, “Birds of a feather flock together.” This means that you travel through life with others who are like you. According to God’s Word, we become more like those we travel with.

Can two walk together, except they be agreed? (Amos 3:3 AKJV)

The Hebrew word ya`ad is translated agreed, however it also means betrothed or to gather together to become allied or similar in nature or quality. This is what happens in the spirit when we come into agreement with others: we become similar to them in nature and quality.


When we come into a wrong agreement, even if it is to protect ourselves or someone else, this agreement will allow spirits to flow into our lives from the spirit realm. Because we are united in sin, we are giving the enemy an easy road into our life.

The words of a gossip are like choice morsels; they go down to the inmost parts.(Proverbs 18:8 NIV)

In the same way, if we entertain gossip by joining in, a tie goes down to our “inmost part” or our soul. Words are powerful. We don’t have to be physically with the person, even if it is through written words or videos, we can partake in gossip and find ourselves under attack.


Righteous prayer with others in agreement, also opens this door in the spirit. Soul ties should always be broken when coming into spiritual agreement with anyone.


Consequences of Soul Ties

Sometimes it is easier to identify a soul tie by the effect of it in our life. These range from annoying to debilitating. Negative effects of soul ties are as varied as sin itself and the people who commit them. Any sin we continue to commit, even though we try to stop, may be a result of a tie or a demon attached to us because of a bridge to our soul. These events can be addressed by asking the Lord to heal our soul as we discussed in Soul Healing. Let’s look at some of the common ones we find in the scriptures.


1. Easily Deceived

Ahab was a king of Israel. Jezebel was his wife and worshiped Baal. Because of the ties between their souls, Ahab fell prey to her many deceptions and led Israel into idolatry. When our soul is tied to anything other than God, it leaves room for the enemy to lead us into deception. This can clearly be seen in another king of Israel.


Jehoshaphat, the king of Judah and the king of Israel were conspiring to go to war. The king of Israel had called 400 prophets who told him what he wanted to hear. Jehoshaphat wanted to make sure he really heard all God had to say and asked for another to be brought before them.

...There is yet one man, Micaiah the son of Imlah, by whom we may inquire of the LORD: but I hate him; for he does not prophesy good concerning me, but evil...(1 Kings 22:8 AKJV)

This is the attitude that we can develop if wrong ties bind our soul. He only wanted to hear things that were good. The New Testament warns us that this will be the condition of the hearts of many of His people:

For the time will come when they will not endure sound doctrine; but after their own lusts shall they heap to themselves teachers, having itching ears; And they shall turn away their ears from the truth, and shall be turned to fables. (2 Timothy 4:3-4 AKJV)

This is the state that many Christians are in. We love to hear the good promises of God, but don’t want to hear that we have a destiny with God, a place in His kingdom that we should be filling. We feel that spending an hour a week in a church and receiving a “feel good” message is enough so that we can spend the majority of our free time on fictional TV, books, and games instead of moving forward into the hard things God expects of us.


I have lost count of the times people have said, “Well, if we really do need to confess our sin (see it the way God does), and turn from it (repent), so that Jesus can have charges removed in the Courts of Heaven, then why aren’t more churches talking about it?”


The honest answer is this: Many of God’s pastors just give out milk because it keeps their flock large and their paychecks big. Others may not have heard of this revelation yet or sought to learn more of God’s ways. Some are content with what they have. I choose to trust in God for my provision and like the one out of 400 prophets, I will say what God tells me to say, no matter how unpopular it is, or who it upsets.


If you find yourself without the desire to learn and grow in God’s ways or if you are easily deceived by false teachers, you may need to cut soul ties. Ask the Holy Spirit to show you what needs to be done and consider your relationship with the following people:


  • Spiritual Leaders - Jesus is our spiritual head, all others soul ties should be removed

  • Prayer partners - Remove all bridges developed by prayers of agreement


2. Unhealthy Grieving

According to the Bible, Jacob loved his son Joseph much more than all his other sons and they knew it. When we have a love that places a person first in our lives, that person may become an idol who is prized over God. This is an unhealthy soul tie.

...but he refused to be comforted; and he said, For I will go down into the grave to my son mourning… (Genesis 37:35 AKJV)

Grieving is a normal response when someone we love dies or leaves us. When we refuse to let go of that grief because of an intense emotion whether it is love, hate, or unfinished business, it is the work of the enemy because of a soul tie.

… weeping may endure for a night, but joy comes in the morning. (Psalm 30:5 AKJV)
Blessed are they that mourn: for they shall be comforted. (Matthew 5:4 AKJV)

When we have a loss, we should bring this to the Lord who will comfort us. Even in the case of a divorce or physical separation, if we continue to pursue the person or worry over them instead of giving them over to the Lord, then we have created an idol in our lives. This will only cause us pain and may be the result of a soul tie. We should apply this information to our children as well. We should be focusing on Jesus and OUR destiny with God.


We need to sever soul ties with those who leave our lives via the grave or earthly separation so that we can move past the loss. This includes children and ex-spouses. The Lord should be the only tie to our soul, all others should be severed.


3. Corruption

When a spiritual bridge exists between us and another person, evil spirits can travel across this path and influence our mind, will, and emotions. This can lead us further and further into sin.

Do not be so deceived and misled! Evil companionships (communion, associations) corrupt and deprave good manners and morals and character. (1 Corinthians 15:33 AMPC)

Companionship is someone inside our circle of trust; a person we have a relationship with. This is more than a casual friend who we see every few months. When a person in our inner circle is dedicated to sin, the demons plaguing them may enter our lives, pushing us toward sinful behavior.


Is your heart ready to be devoted to the Lord and whatever He has for you? You may need to spend less time in the company of those who are not willing to let go of sin in their lives.


Ask the Holy Spirit to identify those you need to remove from your close circle of friends in a gentle, loving way. Do not even mention what you are doing unless the Holy Spirit tells you to. Make sure to pray that the Lord will grant them grace and mercy so that they can learn God’s ways, move closer to Him, and be in your life again.


Breaking Soul Ties

If we continue reading in 1 Corinthians 15, we find the remedy for removing corruption from soul ties:

Awake [from your drunken stupor and return] to sober sense and your right minds, and sin no more for some of you have not the knowledge of God [you are utterly and willfully and disgracefully ignorant, and continue to be so, lacking the sense of God’s presence and all true knowledge of Him]. I say this to your shame. (1 Corinthians 15:34 AMPC)

It should be a matter of shame to not have knowledge of God’s ways. When we don’t have knowledge of Him, it is easier to slip into sin. To escape this there is a process:


  • Awake: realize that these relationships are wrong (confess the sin)

  • Sin no more: turn from sin (repent)


This is the beginning of breaking soul ties. We must be willing to stop whatever actions the enemy has pushed us into through the soul ties. Once we do this, we are now prepared to sever them:

For the Word of God is quick, and powerful, and sharper than any two edged sword, piercing even to the dividing asunder of soul and spirit… (Hebrews 4:12 AKJV)

To rid ourselves of soul ties, we must use the Word of God:

And the Word was made flesh, and dwelled among us… (John 1:14 AKJV)

Jesus is the Word. He is able to cut any soul ties. I thought that was all there was to breaking soul ties, and I pleaded with the Lord to let me know if there was more to know. During the meeting where I spoke about this, God spoke to me in a vision and told me this:


A soul tie involves all three aspects of creation:


  1. Something done in the physical begins the process.

  2. It must impact the soul.

  3. A bridge is formed in the spirit.


To remove something that is so deeply entwined requires the Word of God because:


  1. The Word was (the Lord was in Heaven before we existed)

  2. The Word is (it became a physical presence when Jesus was born on the Earth)

  3. The Word always shall be (Jesus is eternal)


Through the Word, all things were created so it alone has the power to remove that bridge in the spirit. We can call upon the Word in many forms:


  • Quoting the written Word

  • Calling upon the Living Word (Jesus)

  • Using the authority of the Word (sword of the Spirit)


All we need to do is ask and remember that in the Word God tells us by two witnesses a thing shall be established. We should quote the Word of God which is more powerful than any sword as one witness:

Because it is written, Be you holy; for I Am holy. (1 Peter 1:16 AKJV)

The word Holy means separate or set apart. By quoting this verse it shows that we are asking according to God's will. We can also ask the Lord (the second witness) to remove soul ties after we confess and repent for any part that we had in creating them:


“Lord Jesus, please remove any ties to my soul, for it is my desire to be holy, separated unto you and you alone, Father, Son, and Holy Spirit.”


We could also use the sword of the Spirit to sever the tie and take our rightful authority on this Earth if we are sure we have done our necessary part of confessing and turning from sin. We should also be willing to fill that void by learning about God’s ways so that we don’t fall for the same tricks again. What got us in this mess in the first place, was not knowing enough about God and His ways. Repenting from these things means turning from them, including our lack of knowledge of His ways.


If you don’t know what is giving a spirit access to you, you should ask the Holy Spirit. It is important to follow His guidance.


  • You may or may not need to name the person.

  • There may be sins giving the spirits access to you.

  • You may need to forgive someone who has sinned against you.


If you are determined to stop sinning and find yourself still falling into that sin, there may be damage to your soul from a past experience that has created a stronghold for the enemy. After spending time with the Holy Spirit you may know where the tie is. This is why we are in fellowship with one another; consulting with a mature Christian may help reveal the tie.


At the meeting in the video at the top of the page, I give an example of a recent attack from a soul tie and how I handled it. In the next teaching we will talk about how easy it is to come into wrong agreement and how devastating the soul ties can be from these actions.

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